#154 "Lin Shan", walking her own path (18/05/2025)

Lin Shan

More than one senior colleague once told me, "You need to learn how not to be so 'kind.' You need to understand that the world won't treat you well just because you're kind. On the contrary, more people will take advantage of you because of your 'kindness.'"

I know that this senior colleague said it for my own good.

However, regarding whether I'm too "kind-hearted," sometimes there are many things I see but don't say, just because it doesn't mean I don't see them. Some people have problems with their way of doing things and dealing with people. I see these things and keep them to myself; not saying them is great wisdom. Therefore, sometimes when others ask me for my opinion, pressing me for details, not giving a direct answer is already an answer to my view. Sometimes, I know some things but don't say them out loud to save face for the other person. It would be too awkward to ask someone to speak up. Adults should understand this themselves.

Walk your own path

I don't know who will see this, but I want to say that if you are also a young person who wants to try and create your own career, it's really important to be open to listening to the opinions of seniors, but also to digest them and forge your own path. This is definitely not easy, and you'll face many people suggesting different options, not necessarily the path you want to take, even if they mean well. You need to be open to empathy, but ultimately, if you feel that the method you want to try shouldn't be too influenced by others, then forge your own path. Don't feel that you have to follow everyone who's taken a different path. As long as you've carefully considered it repeatedly, weighed the risks, and are willing to try, then do what you want to do.