#210 Life Doesn't Require Many Correct Decisions (14/06/2026)

In life, you don't need to make many right decisions; a few are enough. Many people want to make the best and most correct decisions in everything, but the reality often is that while it would be ideal if every decision were correct, it's difficult for people to always win and guess correctly every time, having things go their way. Therefore, sometimes it's not about always winning or making the right decisions; rather, it's more important to avoid making wrong decisions. My elders told me earnestly that sometimes making one or two wrong decisions can affect a whole lifetime. I think many people have heard stories of individuals in their lives perhaps associating with the wrong people, for example, pooling money to start a business only to be scammed out of it, or going "all in" on the wrong market, losing all their money in a failed investment (small, reversible matters are minor, but large sums can affect the latter half of one's life), or even borrowing money to gamble and then experiencing family breakdown... etc. I think everyone has experienced these big and small matters, or has friends who have experienced them, and it's quite normal. Many of these situations happen around us, and those who made decisions that we retrospectively consider stupid or wrong, don't forget, they are also ordinary people and they absolutely did not want things to go wrong that way. Because at the moment they made the wrong decision, don't forget they also thought it was the correct decision, just like anyone of us. And often in this world, those who make wrong decisions are the majority, and those who make right decisions are the minority, because making a correct decision is painful, and making a wrong decision often is...

What I want to say here, and must say, is that I am the same; I am also a foolish person. I also make wrong decisions. Therefore, I write this to remind myself, because making wrong decisions is often the easiest path. One needs to be careful and strive to make correct decisions, but also understand that it's not always possible to make the right decision every time. Try as much as possible to think about fallback plans. If you make a few correct decisions at a few opportune moments, life will be much easier. For example, many people might choose the right job and follow the right boss. When you help them, they will also reciprocate with corresponding rewards, which saves a lot of time compared to drifting aimlessly for many years, and life will go much smoother. Or another thing, I remember writing about one's significant other one week earlier; your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife is very important to you. A good one can help you a lot, bringing love and happiness every day. A bad one means some couples don't even want to see each other when they return home every night, but perhaps for some reason they cannot divorce, and every day is torment. Two people under the same roof, but every day is agony.

Some things in life cannot be changed, or rather, cannot be resolved. But there are also many decisions that can be altered or have the opportunity to be changed, and by making a few good decisions, life can take a very different path. I distinctly remember my father once telling me in secondary school—at the time I didn't understand, but now I do—something like, I wondered why studying was so hard. He told me a theory; I don't remember the exact words, but the gist was that sometimes in life, during certain Critical Moments, putting in effort for a short period can lead to decades of a more comfortable life. An example is the few years leading up to public exams in secondary school. The effort at that time would lead you down a different path, meeting different people, and having a different life. Now I know that sometimes opportunities might not solely rely on studying. Even though I myself finished studying Law at HKU, passed the PCLL exam, and even signed a Training Contract Offer, I didn't actually end up pursuing it. Some people might feel that I haven't put this theory into practice, but I absolutely believe this theory is correct. Even though I ultimately chose another, less mainstream path, the effort at that time gave me more Options and equipped me to become who I am today. I believe many skills and perspectives, things I couldn't see before, were revealed to me through that effort. Not to mention, simply learning English well has allowed me to access more foreign information, which would not have been possible if I hadn't studied well back then.